10 Ways To Make Great Friends

10 Ways To Make Great Friends

Show me your friends

Show me your friends, and I’ll show you who you are. I am sure we have all heard that quote before, but just how true is this? It is ABSOLUTELY true, I would go as far as to say show me your friends, and I’ll let you know what your future entails. Friendships are a beautiful gift from God that can add so much to our lives. Friends can be a blessing, but they can also be a curse, so it is important that we learn to make friends, keep the friends that help us pursue our purpose and destiny, and take out those that emotionally drain us, that discourage us and push us away from a healthy relationship with God.

Bad Company Corrupts Good Character

The honest truth is that some of us have lots of friends, but they aren’t so great. You must remember that “ bad company corrupts good character” 1 Corinthians 15:33. It is easier to have someone pull you down then it is for you to pull someone up; they weight more, and will eventually drag both of you down. You CANNOT be the only one in your friend group that is seeking a righteous life, it will not work out. You need to surround yourself with people that will support your life goals and keep you accountable.

Let’s say you want to lose weight, would you want to surround yourself with people that eat junk food all the time or surround yourself with those that are trying to lose weight and those that have already lost weight? I think most of us would choose to be around the healthy friends, so why would you surround yourself with people that are lazy, pessimistic, and unrighteous if you want to actively pursue your purpose? Stop stunting your growth by surrounding yourself with the wrong people.

Closer Than a Brother

Proverbs 18:24 states “one who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother” Good friends aren’t supposed to be fickle, yes there will be problems, but a good friend is consistently a friend.

If there are people in your life that you regularly question their position, that is a good sign that they aren’t your friends, they might just be an acquaintance or sister/brother in Christ; that’s ok. The bible says that a friend can stick closer than a brother. Think of the bond that brothers have, you can have a bond like this with a friend. My friends are like my sisters, I confide in them, I pray for them, I laugh with them, and dream about them.

My prayer today is that you will surround yourself with dream chasers. Stop having superficial friendships but instead have God designed relationships.

 

So how do you make great friends?

  1. Be the friend that you would want to have.
  2. Build your relationship on a solid foundation of Godliness.
  3. Pray with your friends and pray for your friends
  4. Don’t treat people as if they are replaceable.
  5. Rebuke the spirit of offense
  6. Learn to laugh
  7. Forgive, forgive, and forgive
  8. Teach – What are you offering your friends?
  9. Protect their credibility and do not cause your friends to stumble.
  10. Love them, because Love trumps ALL

 

Lets add to the list!
What is one way that you maintain Godly friendships? Comment below

 

Stay Blessed,

 

2 Comments

  1. February 10, 2017 / 9:48 pm

    Have you ever had a friend who was holding you back and how did you “cut them off?” (that sounds terrible but you know what I mean!)

    • Karen
      February 13, 2017 / 4:27 am

      Hey Megan!,

      Someone once told me that ” cutting off” is not necessarily what we should do as Christians because we must continually show God’s love through our actions. If I had a friend that was holding me back, I would first speak to that person about how I felt to see where their head was at. Maybe the person is actually dealing with a lot and their actions out are from something that you both can fight through prayer. Now, if the friend is not responsive, I would definitely set healthy boundaries. You choose how much of an effect people have on you. If you friend can’t support you, then I would make it clear to them that you have boundaries that cannot be breached.. ex, they can’t talk to you any type of way, they can’t curse around you etc… I find that if you set boundaries in love and you continue to stay in your Godly lane, bad friends will either be interested in changing or they will quickly fall off. look at it this way, if your friend keeps calling you to go out and you continually saying ” no, I am working on my relationship with God and rather stay home tonight” they will eventually stop asking!.

      that was long, but I hope that helps hon. I believe the goal is to never burn bridges ( if you can help it) to the point that you could never one day help this person come to Christ.

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