Debi: Dealing With Insecurities

Debi: Dealing With Insecurities

We waste an incredible amount of time wanting to be somewhere else, someone else. Our head-space gets clogged with compare, contrast, what if, why can’t, I should. We become our toughest critics and start to create this mentality of “I am not enough” or “I need her/his life to be happy” when in reality you are who you are on purpose and for a purpose. Of course, one does not simply know that without fully understanding their identity in Christ. So we build a sort of castle where we become the damsel in distress, with the feeling that we are too worthless to be saved, but we soon learn that dealing with insecurities is vital to our growth.

Romans 12:6 (MSG)

“Each of us finds our meaning and function as a part of his body. But as a chopped-off finger or cut-off toe we wouldn’t amount to much, would we? So since we find ourselves fashioned into all these excellently formed and marvelously functioning parts in Christ’s body, let’s just go ahead and be what we’re made to be, without enviously or pridefully comparing ourselves with each other, or trying to be something we aren’t”

Veiled- Dealing With Insecurities

I’ve always had my fair share of insecurities. They ranged from things I could control to things I couldn’t. My inability to fully love myself in spite of my insecurities began to induce doubts/fears into my life and tear away the joy that once resided in my soul. I needed to change when others changed, to be when other people started to be. I did not necessarily want to be better; but fit into the mold of those who did not even know what path they were taking. I wanted to take the road most traveled because I knew it guaranteed acceptance. I was fearful, fearful of being too smart, too creative, and too appealing.

But it soon occurred to me how much of myself I’d given at the expense of other people’s approval. I was losing myself, and I needed time to nurture my spirit man and find myself. Not the me I thought I was, or the me others might have labeled me to be, but simply me in all my fullness, imperfections, flaws, talents, and fears.

I don’t believe we can know entirely who we are in one year, let alone a single day. However, I believe that every second of our life counts for something, so why waste it? Why waste precious time trying to fit into someone else’s box, when God uniquely created you for an entirely different purpose?



1 Corinthians 12:27 Now you are the body of Christ and individually members of it (ASV)

I remember reading this verse and thinking wow! I am an individual with a part in the body of Christ. It seems silly now, but back then, I felt like everyone else. God was able to gently remind me that He has counted every hair on my head, He has given me a future and hope, He has plans for me, and I am royalty before His eyes.

It is incredibly easy to be like others. To walk around without purpose or calling. However, it is so rewarding to know that YOU are accounted for.

The way you laugh, look, smell, and dress is different!


Even the way you think is different. Being genuine and true to yourself is the best thing you can do. For yourself. For others. The world is tired of copies. Be original; Romans 12:2.

Security In Christ

My new-found security in Christ and in my own identity has given me clarity. I see now how strong and powerful I am when I submit and let God take the lead in my life. The way I carry myself and how I handle certain situations have completely changed now that I am secure in Christ.

I will always remember a quote by Marianne Williamson that says,

“You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.”

So I invite you to unveil and come out of hiding. You are You. You are safe in His arms.


Wow, wasn’t that beautiful? Thank you, Debi, for sharing your wonderful testimony with us, I pray that God continues to reveal to you His purpose for your life. Your ability to unveil into the beautiful woman that you are teaches us that we are never ” too much”, that we are fearfully and wonderfully made and that the world needs us to be us. No more comparing, no more hiding behind insecurities, it is time to let our light shine.

Have you read my unveiling. Come check it out!

How are you unveiling? Comment below

Stay blessed,

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  1. Biruk
    June 13, 2017 / 6:57 pm

    Wow, so good!! Thank you for sharing this!

    • ktchuindjo
      June 13, 2017 / 8:11 pm

      Thanks for reading!

  2. nonso
    June 13, 2017 / 8:34 pm

    changing the world

    • ktchuindjo
      June 25, 2017 / 10:13 pm


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