Calling: You Are Made on Purpose

Mark Twain once said that “ the two most important days in your life are the day you were born, and the day you find out why”. What is your purpose on this earth, why were you created, were you even created on purpose or was it just a mishap?

God knows exactly who you are meant to be, “ Before I formed you in the womb I knew you before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations” (Jeremiah 1:5). You were not a mistake, but a creation made by God, he knew of your existence before the beginning of time.image describing the important of knowing the purpose of a product before creating it.

A Manufacturer’s Product

You might be saying, “ ok I know that God knew me before creating me, but what does that mean in terms of having a purpose and being called?”. If God knew that you would be born then he had a plan set for your life. A manufacturer does not create a product before deciding the purpose of the product. When creating
a product, you first set out the blueprint, the audience it will target, the purpose of the product, and then you make it. If anyone has been created on this earth, that means God, the manufacturer of mankind, has a purpose for them.

The issue is not that you don’t have a purpose, no, you have been called. The issue is that often timquestion asking the reader if they are still recognizable.es, through sin, we stray far away from our manufacturer and are unable to determine our calling and purpose. Sometimes products get so bruised up and beaten over time that you are unable to recognize what it was meant to be; we’ve all had that destroyed book, that you can no longer tell the title of. We live in a fallen world and the problems of life have a way of beating us up too, sometimes to a point where we move so off track that we become unrecognizable.

Have you ever bought an item, and instead of reading the assembly manual that comes with the item, you assemble it based on your own knowledge? I do this all the time. Eventually, what happens is that you end up building the item, let us say that it is a bookshelf. The bookshelf looks nice at first glance, yet there are some bolts you forget to secure and it is not level, so it ends up falling apart after a short amount of time. This is what happens when we mature apart from the Word, we may look like we have it together on the outside, but inside we are crumbling and eventually will break.

Living In Intimacy with God

We were not meant to live apart from our manufacturer and apart from his manual, the Word. “ If we live, we live for the Lord; and if we die we die for the Lord. So, whether we live or die we belong to the Lord” (Romans 14:8). Sin is what separates us from God “ But your iniquities have separated you from your God; your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hear” (Isaiah 59:2). Our sinful nature separates us from God, but the blood of the lamb covers all sin and allows us to live intimately with God. The question we should be asking ourselves is “ am I walking with God or am I living apart from him” because if you live apart from God you will NEVER know the call upon your life.

You are a child of God made on purpose, for a purpose. “ Then God said “ Let us make man in our imagepicture encouraging reader that they have been made to succeed , after our likeness. And let them have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of heaven and over the livestock and over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth” ( Genesis 1:26). You were made after the likeness of God, not to sit around but to have dominion over the earth. You were made to have success over everything you touch because your heavenly father formed you.

“ So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God” ( 1 Corinthians 10:31). You have a calling over your life, and everything you do should have purpose. You might not be at the point where you are sure about your calling but you still have the ability to ask God about the purpose of different aspects of your life. God cares even about the little things. I often ask him, what is the purpose of dressing in this way, what is the purpose of this class? What is the purpose of this friendship? If you want to be a powerhouse for the Lord, you must live a life that is purposeful.

It is only through intimacy with your creator, that you will be able to determine your calling and the purpose to any life choice.

Prayer

Heavenly father, forgive me if I have sought (Insert decisions) before seeking your face. Lord, I desire to walk with your presence and not ahead of it. On this day, I will be patient enough to ask you for direction and purpose before making any decision. Lord, I desire to have a more intimate relationship with you. I am broken and the only way I will begin to be healed is through you, my creator. Lord, thank you for calling me and for placing a purpose in me even before I was born. I will keep my eyes peeled and my ears open so that I may hear and see you. Thank you for the sacrifice that you made on the cross, because of Jesus Christ my sins have washed away and I am able to walk in freedom. Lord, thank you for reminding me that no matter how I came on this earth, I have been made on purpose for a purpose. In Jesus’s name, Amen.

 

Stay blessed,

Feeling Overlooked: The Gift Of Being Hidden

Feeling Overlooked? Hidden?

Do you ever feel like no one sees you? Like there is so much inside of you that has yet to be revealed? Do you feel like opportunities haven’t been presented to you? You find yourself being overlooked, do you feel hidden?

People can clearly see you, I am not referring to being physically hidden, but it seems that your giftings and anointing are being overlooked, it’s as if they aren’t there. Why has God downloaded all these things inside of you without providing any opportunities for it to be revealed?

I have felt hidden, I have felt overlooked. And although I am a big proponent of allowing God to unveil what is inside you, that’s it! I am a big proponent of allowing God to unveil what is inside of you in HIS timing. Let me repeat that, I am a big proponent of allowing God to unveil what is inside of you in HIS timing. You may or may not want to hear this, but it is a gift to be hidden and God may hide parts of you from the world for your own benefit.

Now I am not saying that God is keeping you to himself, and doesn’t want the world to see your light, no. We are called to be the light of the world. However, there are some giftings in you, some characteristics, some anointing that has yet to be revealed…on purpose.

Right Time, Right Place

Some of your giftings have not met the right environment or season, therefore will stay in a hiding place. In the period before the unveiling, God will prune that gifting, will build it and prepare you to reveal it in a way that will make a large impact. He is even preparing the hearts of people to receive what is inside of you. So no, being hidden is not a bad thing when it is done by God.

When you purposely seclude yourself from the world, that my friend is not healthy and that is not of God. But I think we can all identify certain gifts, projects and plans that are deep inside of us that have not come to life. This is God’s security blanket for us, it is not a curse.

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So you have applied to a million schools, have done everything on your part, but have yet to get an acceptance letter…you might be in God’s hiding place. So you’ve worked your butt off at work, you come in early and leave late, but your employer has yet to notice you…you might be in God’s hiding place. Everyone says how sweet you are, you look good, you focus your mind on Jesus, you pray for a Godly relationship, and it seems like everyone is finding a spouse except you…you might be in God’s hiding place.

Are you following? There is an appropriate time and place for everything, and that gift may not have reached its perfect time and place for ripening.

They say the right thing at the wrong time is the wrong thing. To add to that, the right thing at the wrong place is also the wrong thing. There are specific environments that are necessary to grow your gift and to accept that gift. You may not be at a place ready for your unveiling. You may not be in a season where that gifting is ripe enough to be released to the world.

Wait on the Lord and trust that He knows what He is doing.

The Lord has a plan to unfold everything He has downloaded into you. But, you have to trust that He will do so in His timing.

It is a gift to be hidden because….

      1. Being thrown into an environment prematurely can destroy you. You might think that you are ready to lead that group, take that promotion and be in that relationship…but you don’t know the full story like God does. Your life is not a television show, if you fast forward to the next scene and have issues understanding the scene, you can’t rewind to the previous scene.

          Once a season is gone, it is gone! so don’t give up the opportunity to maximize the season that you are in. You have to learn the necessary lessons and build the appropriate character before moving on, or else you will burn.

 

    2.There is a lot of growth found in the hiding place. You are able to allow God to mature you privately without scrutiny. Growing in the limelight is not easy, ask any childhood star! it is a gift to be able to make mistakes and to grow without all eyes being on you.

 

   3. It protects God’s children. Being placed in an environment prematurely is not just dangerous for you but dangerous for those that are in your sphere of influence. Imagine how destructive it could be to lead a company with little experience…imagine the effect it would have on your employees, on their families.

       Preparation is key for the sake of those you are being protected for. This life we live is not only for our sake. Being overlooked for that one job may have been a blessing! That guy that didn’t text you back… count your blessings sis!

 

   4. Jesus was hidden. We forget that the bible does not speak about a large portion of Jesus’s life. A short portion of his childhood is revealed, but we aren’t aware of his story again until he is 30. We don’t know and will never know what happened in that gap.

We can imagine that Jesus was living his life, doing his work, and being pruned to fulfill his ministry. The point is, being hidden is necessary. There is no need for the masses to know what God is doing in you…in due season it will be revealed through your fruit.

 Hear Me Roar

I think our generation has a way of wanting things quickly. As soon as God begins to teach us something, we are quick to stop learning, believing that we have all the necessary lessons. We are quick to share, to implement. We don’t always take the time for God to mature what He has started in us. It’s a move out the way, hear me roar mentality.

I don’t want you to dim down your light, no, no. no, I want you to roar, as God leads you to.  But I do want you to take a step back and appreciate the work that God is doing in you. I urge you to take a step back and reflect. Don’t move ahead of God! there are gifts in you that are not ready to be exposed. Trust in His timing. It is ok to be in God’s hiding place.

Stay blessed,

Have you ever been hidden? Do you have dreams and gifts you have yet to see? Comment below!

 

Showing Gratitude: Challenge!

“ Cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you, and to give thanks continuously. And because all things have contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in your gratitude. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

When I first planned to write this post, I imagined that I would write about why I was grateful, but it dawned on me that many people have difficulty with gratitude. Giving thanks and showing gratitude and praise can be difficult when we are burdened with the issues of the world.  How do you show gratitude when you feel like you have nothing to be grateful for?

The issues of life can mask the miracle workers that have been set on our path. They say that it easier to see the bad then it is to see the good…maybe that’s because of our inherent evil nature, I don’t know.

What I do know is that sometimes, when you haven’t personally seen God’s faithfulness in your life or season, you think it doesn’t exist, and you believe the lie that there is NOTHING and NO-ONE  in your life worth being thankful for, forgetting that life itself is a gift.

Praising God In The Hills & Valleys

So in this season of thanksgiving, I am encouraging you to take on a lifestyle of praise and worship to God. In good times and bad times, yell out just how good God is. Let the devil know that even as you walk through the shadow of the valley of death, you shall fear no evil because you serve a mighty God.

Talk about God like He is the most beautiful, creative, loving, strong person that you have ever met…because He is. Allow the thought of God to make you excited and filled with joy. Praise, worship, praise, worship and repeat…no intermission.

Even in the midst of tears running down my face ( not tears of joy), I have praised God and have seen His faithfulness. Never underestimate the power of worship. There is a reason why the devil tries to steal our worship; it breaks chains that hold us back. Look at Paul and Silas story for example…

“ After they had been severely flogged, they were thrown into prison, and the jailer was commanded to guard them carefully. 24 When he received these orders, he put them in the inner cell and fastened their feet in the stocks.25 About midnight Paul and Silas were praying and singing hymns to God, and the other prisoners were listening to them.

26 Suddenly there was such a violent earthquake that the foundations of the prison were shaken. At once all the prison doors flew open, and everyone’s chains came loose.” Like Paul and Silas, your continual worship even in the hardest of time will infact breaks down barriers.” Acts 16:23-26

How To Praise

In times that you find it hard to praise God, these are the times that you should praise Him the most. Don’t wait for a feeling to start using your words to praise God. Don’t wait for another opportunity any longer.

Shout for joy to the Lord, all the earth.
    Worship the Lord with gladness;
    come before him with joyful songs.
Know that the Lord is God.
    It is he who made us, and we are his[a];
    we are his people, the sheep of his pasture.

Enter his gates with thanksgiving
    and his courts with praise;
    give thanks to him and praise his name.
For the Lord is good and his love endures forever;
    his faithfulness continues through all generations. Psalm 100

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Gratitude Challenge

I can find myself thanking God for things and opportunity more-so than people. In the past, I have found it difficult to show my thankfulness for the people in my life, but I realized that there is power in showing gratitude towards those around you. No matter where you may stand with a person, their placement in your life served a purpose.

God has used various people in your life to get you to where you are, and it can become easy to take them for granted. But God is in the business of people and so should you.

So as we begin this season of Thanksgiving, I have a challenge for you…. you ready!

Th Challenge runs from now until the end of November, that is exactly 25 days. I want you to praise God for one person in your life each day. Praise God for bringing the person in your life, cover them in prayer and reach out to them to thank them.

That’s 3 steps

 Praise

   Pray

   Reach Out

 PPR!

 

I have created a Gratitude challenge printable that will help you keep track of all those that you are praying for. Go ahead and download it by clicking on the “Free Resource Library” tab. Need the password? click on the subscribe button on the sidebar —> and you will be sent the password.

Let’s keep each other accountable, thumbs up or comment down below if you will join me on this Gratitude challenge. Share this challenge with your family and friends, and use #kytGratitudeChallenge on social media.

Stay blessed,

5 Tips To Maintain Friendships

Brunch and Friendship

I was able to celebrate my friend’s birthday via brunch recently. It was such a great time filled with laughter, joy, and celebration.

Now if you don’t know by now, I am an introvert. I like staying at home, cozying up to my blanket and reading a good book. Although I love people, I have to be intentional with meeting up with friends and going to events…or I just won’t do it.

But as I transition from college life to adult life, I am realizing the importance of intentionality in friendships. With every relationship, whether it be a romantic one or a friendship, the flame will slowly burn out if you don’t maintain it…and what better way to maintain a flame than to fan it.

What I am saying is you HAVE to make time for your friends if you want to keep them. This is not to say that you have to call them up each day, but you have to find a way to stay relevant in their lives. The people you love the most should not have to go through hardships and grand celebrations without you.

It’s not difficult to make friends, but it can be difficult to keep them. So below are five things that I have implemented to ensure that my friendships grow.Tips to maintain friendships

5 Key Ways To Upkeep Your Friendships

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  1. Keep Christ at the center of your relationships.

    Having a Christ-centered relationship is key to maintaining a healthy and purposeful friendship. I find that this is especially useful to ward off offense, which is something that can occur easily in friendship. When I am upset as a friend, I go to God to hash it out before I go to the friend. Jesus Christ keeps me in line and in check. Oftentimes my perspective can be tainted and Christ allows me to see things in a clear way to ensure that I make a clear decision on how to move forward.                                                                                                                                                                           I would highly recommend including prayer in your relationships. My core group of friends makes the time to pray together once a month. It’s hard to keep grudges and anger while praying for each other, so prayer is key!

  2. Have a clear communication line and be vulnerable

    How are you going to build a relationship with someone that you don’t speak to? News Flash, You can’t. Take the time to speak to your friends and built a relationship, in which you are free to speak your mind, correct your friend and be true to yourself. It makes it so hard to be deep with someone you don’t trust will understand you. As you grow your relationship, take a chance and be vulnerable. I have found that my friendships have grown a lot in my most vulnerable times.

  3. Continue to have fun together

    Don’t take life too seriously. Laughter is the cure for many ailments. Don’t lose the fun that you once had when you first started being friends. Even with the increasing responsibilities of life, I find it important to just laugh and be silly.

  4. Facetime is your best friend

    Y’all let me tell you, Facetime is a Godsend. If your friend has an Android and can’t facetime, drop them, it was never meant to be…. I am totally joking, please don’t do that. In the 21st century, distance cannot be an excuse for not keeping in touch. Facetime has become my key even with my friends that live in the state. You won’t always have the time to drive or fly to a friends house, and you cant wait to speak to someone until you see them face-to-face. Facetime allows you to have great conversations in the comfort of your own home. We all know that texting communication is very different then talking…don’t depend on texting as the only source of communication.

  5. Celebrate the wins and mourn the losses.

    Like I mentioned above, I don’t want my friends to celebrate the wins and mourn the losses without me. When they achieve a desire and God blesses them, I want to be there to celebrate with them. At the same time, when they go through tough times, I also want to be there to support them and walk them out of that darkness. Don’t stop doing life with the people you love.

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Stay blessed,

P.S. The restaurant where I had lunch was Sugo Osteria in Potomac, Maryland. It was delicious and I recommend their bottomless brunch.

Single Chronicles: Lessons From My Single Season

There seems to be a ludicrous belief that all single people are unhappy, sad, lonely and desperate, but it’s a lie. Singleness is not a poisonous state to be in. Our single season can be one of growth, freedom, and beauty. As a seasoned single, I have learned a few lessons that have truly impacted me.

Being single is not a death sentence.

My Journey

Being single was not always easy. Yes, I had those moments when I would throw a pity party for myself. In college, especially before I found a relationship with Christ, it was difficult to be single and content. People seemed to get booed up left and right and having “bae” was all part of the college experience. I didn’t want much, just a simple hug, a valentine, a chocolate and a buddy to go eat with…

As time passed, I would continue to envy those with relationships. I had a desire to date without understanding God’s standards. Eventually, my desires combined with my lack of knowledge of God’s truth led me to enter a relationship that was not for me. You all know exactly what I mean, there are things that God says don’t touch and instead of listening, we get closer and closer and closer until it burns us.

My heart was hardened towards God, I was lukewarm; I wanted to have the label of Christian without having the fire and power of God to fuel my life. A desire that is not matched with God’s will can consume us and poison our lives. 

Relationships Are Important

Don’t enter a relationship out of a desire that does not match up with God’s will for your life.

When I renewed my vow to God and became intentional with my faith, my whole view of relationships and single seasons changed. I finally understood the importance and significance of relationships in our lives. The world makes it seem as if relationships are casual happenings BUT God does not see it that way at all. The person we choose to spend the rest of our life with is not a light issue and it cannot be chosen in a place of desperation, ungodly desire, and confusion.

Together, you and your mate should glorify the Lord more than you could separately. Marriage is more than hugs and kisses but is a covenant that is pure and that should exemplify Jesus’s love for the church.

It can be very easy to be narrow-minded and short-sighted when it comes to relationships. Sometimes, we forget that our decision on who to partner with affects others. I have learned that the decision that I make in regards to my lifelong partner may affect generations to come.

Marriage is sacred and should not be taken lightly. Relationships and marriage must be done with God’s help if we want it to last and be successful. There is no need to rush out of our single season to enter a situation that was never meant for us.

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The Now

My single season has allowed me to take a step back and really learn how to date in a way that is pleasing to the Lord. I have learned my role as a woman in a relationship and how God intended men to pursue. I have had the time to pray over my desires and ensure that they are Godly standards and not just preferences.

Pruning and Preparation

Use your single season to understand God’s intention for relationships and marriage. This is the time for you to set your standards straight so that no one can sweet talk you out of them

Read dating advice here

I can honestly say that the discontentment and burning desire to be in a relationship is no longer alive. That’s not to say that I have no desire for a relationship and marriage…no no no. But what this does mean is that I am content. I am content with being in the season that I am in as I know that this season is necessary to get me to the next one. There is danger in jumping out of seasons too fast. I have let go and let God mature me into the woman He needs me to be for the future family and husband that He will provide.

Contentment

Marriage is hard and it is not for the faint-hearted. Fortunately, God provides all the necessary tools to make marriage a beautiful journey. Let’s trust that the Lord will carry us through.

Be content in your singleness. You are in this season not because God has some evil plan to keep you single forever, but maybe because it just isn’t the right time. Allow God to be God and sit back. Don’t you want the King of kings to write your love story?

So often we fall into this pity party and we forget that life has so much to give. I can’t dwell on my lack when God has a lot for me TODAY. Instead of focusing on what I don’t have, let me focus on the passions and gifts God has birth in me. We are women of purpose, let’s not sit around waiting for a man, get up and go!

There are many things that you can do in your single season that you cannot do once married. Instead of dwelling on your lack, go and pursue the passions God has placed in your heart. The kingdom needs you to end your pity party and join the task force.

Trust God’s Plan

I hate to be the downer, but what if you never get married? Would you stomp your feet, and turn your back on God. Now, I am not saying that this will happen to you. If it is God’s plan for you to have a mate than surely you will have one. But have you ever asked yourself that question? And when you did, was your first response ” God forbid” and then you brushed it off. If you brushed it off? Why? Why is it that we tend to shy away from that question? The question is black and white.

I have always had a desire to have a marriage and to raise a family and I believe that God will give me the desires of my heart. But if I end up unmarried, I believe that God is still in control and has a better plan for my life. “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” ( Jeremiah 29:11)

Cherish Your Today

If marriage is not in God’s plan for your life, that is nothing to be scared of because that was not your BEST plan.

God is too good for me to turn my back on Him. My first desire is to pursue God with passion and zeal. Without Him I am nothing, a husband does not take the place of Christ! I am confident in my ability to succeed through anything if God is by my side.

Pursue Christ, not for the blessings but for Him. Understand that God’s plan is the best plan for your life even if it doesn’t look like your own desires. God will give you joy and peace through any season of life. Trust in His abilities to transform desires that you thought could not be changed.

There is beauty in entrusting God and giving Him control over my love life. Instead of being stressed about my single status, I am able to enjoy God’s presence and the present that He has created for me. Why should I cry when I can laugh and enjoy TODAY. My God, there is so much right in front of us if we just open our eyes to see it.single season

 

Let’s Cherish our today. Enjoy and be content in your singleness. Let’s be so in love with God that we are willing to let go of our desires to follow His. Being single is not a death sentence but an amazing journey of growth, preparation, and freedom.

 

Stay blessed,

 

The Best College Advice For Success Ft. Angelica

Happy Back To School

I remember going back to school; fresh books, teachers, and lessons. If you haven’t gone back to school yet then you probably will very soon, so why not gain some wisdom from the wise.”Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm” (Proverbs 13:20). Angelica is an outstanding woman of God and is in her last semester of college pursuing Mechanical engineering; what better person to give college advice!

Academic

In your opinion what is the hardest aspect of college?

The hardest aspect of college is understanding your path and following through. Once you identify your goals, it makes it easier to execute college and to stay persistent through trial & tribulations.

I was a straight-A student in high school and I just seem to struggle a lot in right in college. I am frustrated, what do you suggest?

Relax. Don’t apply any more pressure to yourself than college already does. Find some guidance through mentors, older students, alumni, or even your peers. Get some information on academic resources and programs that can help to readjust your focus and steps to get the grades you want. One of the best advice that I have received throughout my college career is “Work Smarter, not Harder”.

How do I pick a major?

College has so many opportunities available, so you should never limit yourself, ever. When deciding on the major you want, make sure that you can maximize your experience outside of the classroom within the next four years ahead of you. Thus, my key advice would be to brainstorm your interests and then based off of those listed, find a major that creates your interest into a passion.

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Ok so what about professor and student relationship? Is it really important that I speak to my professors? I am nervous, I am one out of 300 students?

Yes! these professors will not know you unless you make an impression on them. So build relationships with them in order to reap the benefits of recommendations, grade changers, and overall, academic excellence. So, find your way to office hours, emails, front row, or whatever you need to do to show your face.

Do I really need an internship? Are they even useful?

YES. Experience is very important because it helps you to maximize your skills and bring you closer to your career of choice. Even the worst internships can teach you about yourself and what you don’t and do like.

I went to the bookstore to buy my books? was that a good idea? Where should I buy textbooks?

No, college is a business (aka expensive ) so go check out Amazon Prime for students, Half.com, free online pdfs, and older students that took the courses before you. Thank me later.

Spirituality

How do I maintain my faith in college when there is so much temptation? How do you flee temptation?

Find your foundation. Find that place on campus that you can go for spiritual wisdom, fellowship, and accountability. Whether it is a campus fellowship on campus or a nearby Church, campus hobby, or an on-campus coffee shop that you can reflect in. It is important to guard your heart throughout college and sometimes isolation can bring growth but don’t lose yourself.

Read: 13 Ways To Better Your Relationship With Christ

How do you make time for God with your busy schedule? How am I even going to make it to church without a car?

Prayer is essential, so I always try to find time to pray throughout the day and to also receive wisdom in the smallest breaks (walking to class) through podcasts, youtube sermons, music and so forth. Sometimes I do fall behind,  so make sure to have friends to keep you accountable and give you rides to church if you can’t find one on campus

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Social & More

What should I pack for move in and what should I leave?

Your Bible because the enemy be trying it, especially at some schools more than ever, but that’s a topic for another blog post. Also, don’t forget your skin care, hygienic products, and stress reliever products because self-care is KEY. Don’t bring your whole closet to school because let’s be real, your style is going to change, you’ll be going home on breaks, and seasons change so nobody has time to be throwing out clothes when it is time to move out.

How can I avoid the freshman 15?

LOL. I am still learning; I’m currently at senior 4.5. However, being active through recreational and club teams are helpful because the team needs you so you can’t skip even if you don’t feel like going.  Fitness is also more fun in a group context.

What about friendship? What is one friendship advice you would give to your freshman self?

Not everyone is for you (clapping emojis). Freshmen babe, the best thing you can do for yourself is to love yourself first because that’s the only thing that will stay constant for the next four years.

How do I make friends?

Pray for intentional friends, and then go out to organizations (social and professional), campus events and etc. because what is faith without works.

How can I interact well with my roommate? Did you ever have any roommate issues?

Set your boundaries even outside of the mandatory roommate agreement that you are forced to sign. Most of my issues were due to lack of communication.

How do you manage a social life and school life? What are some of your organization tips?

Lol in my pre-conditioned life or now? What I have learned now, is that both types of lives should feed into you and not the other way around. So, in some semesters my social life would just include organization meetings and my quiet time but then in others, it would be more parties. Thus, I would suggest that you take some time to relax and take on hobbies outside of your academics that can be your getaway when school becomes stressful but are also career builders.

 

Any more college advice?

 Whoever said college was the best four years of your life, didn’t have their future figured out. The honest truth is that college will be a great four years only if you decide to dedicate it to your lifelong growth, success, and happiness. Here are 11 principles I wish I knew about growing up.

  1. Know who you are authentically because what you thought you were in high school was an illusion.
  2. As a lady, never shoot your shot, when you were just meant to keep score. (Stay Focused)
  3. Look at your friends, now ask yourself: what purpose do they serve? If they can’t grow with you then they can’t hear from you.
  4. In your worst moments. Still, show love.
  5. Embrace the pain, you can’t go under or over it but just through it.
  6. Don’t be afraid to say follow God and proclaim His name freely and boldly.
  7. Lack of communication leads to a greater assumption.
  8. Don’t let people suggestions be your greatest wisdom.
  9. What God has for you, you have to take it. There’s no way around it.
  10. The goal is to be a humble servant and not a boastful nuisance. The bible says that those who humble themselves will be exalted.
  11. Mental health is worth more than your grades.

 

 

Thank you, Angelica, for such great advice! I couldn’t have said it better myself. As you have blessed us with your wisdom, so will the Lord return that blessing to you double fold.

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Stay Blessed,

The 22 Most Important Lessons Learned

Wow, another year in my book of life. God has been so faithful in leading me to this place. On this day, I celebrate my birthday and some of the important lessons learned in life thus far. This was a beautiful chapter, and like last year, I would like to share lessons I have learned. Cheers to 22, and cheers to 22 new lessons!

 

Most Important Lessons Learned

1. I am fearfully and wonderfully made, not only do I know this but I believe it. No amount of praise can help you gain confidence, only God can.

2. It is important to care and love on your family and friends. Often times we are so busy taking care of others outside of our circle, serving and whatnot that we forget to show that same love to those in our home. I can’t treat my family and friends as less because I believe they won’t go anywhere. Life is short, cherish your time with those you love.Birthday balloons, important lessons learned

3. Television is overrated and boring. Reading is much more relaxing and educational. I have gained so much wisdom from reading and I am so thankful for the ministry of each and every author that has planted seeds in my life.

                  4. Smile beautiful, it looks good on you. I smile on most of my pictures, partly because I don’t know what else to do ( lol) but mostly because I have joy. Joy and peace from the Lord cannot be understood, simply felt. It is such a beautiful gift to smile in the hills and valleys.

5. My faith walk is not dependent on rules and bylaws, more so an intimate relationship with Jesus Christ. Because I seek to build a strong and intimate relationship with Christ, I stick close to His teachings. Religion and rules do not guide me, the Holy Spirit and the truths written in the word do. It is vital for any Christian journey to walk with the aid of the Holy Spirit.

 6. Beauty starts within. You shine, not because of the makeup or clothes you wear, but as a residual effect of the light that is within you.

7. I will no longer make excuses for my quirks. I am me with all the quirks, either you like it or you don’t. If you do, great but if you don’t, that’s also great. Everyone does not have to befriend me and that is more than ok, it just means that our destinies do not cross.Birthday, roses, important lessons learned

 

 

 

 

 

 

8. Yes, my hair is big, curly, thick and doesn’t always act the way it should, but I love it. I use to be so annoyed of my hair, but I am starting to see how much of a blessing it is.

9. Perspective is key. Instead of moaning over your issues, look at them through God’s. How is this situation working for my good, and how is it molding me in my path of purpose and destiny. No experience is a wasted experience!

10. One of the most important lessons I learned is to not be afraid to love hard and to say it even if you’re scared. I used to be very fearful of how people would perceive me if I ” cared too much” or ” gave too much”, I thought they would say that I was extra, but that hasn’t been the case. Those that respond negatively are those that need love the most. We live in a broken world, love is the last thing we should be hiding. Love and serve others. 22nd birthday, important lessons learned

 11. It is okay to be selfish. It is okay to be selfish. You need to protect yourself and guard your heart. This means that you will have to say no to some things; you may have to cut relationships. Walk in wisdom and don’t leave situations in a sour state but guard your heart.

 12. Laugh your problems away. Laughter is great medicine!

13. God is faithful, worthy, deserving and powerful. It is so unfortunate that we do not fully understand the power and love of God. He is mighty, and He has not let me down yet, and He never will. I am so glad that the Lord turned my story around, that He called me when I did not feel deserving of His world. To God be all the glory!

14. Change is good. I used to hate change, detest it, the strongest word you can possibly imagine. Routine is still near and dear to my heart but I am not scared to try new things because I have found that it is in that new thing that God matures me. I am forced to depend on God when I am not in my comfort zone.Ivy walls, important lessons learned

 

 

 

15. Parents and grandparents have a lot of wisdom. Listen to the elders in your life and gain some wisdom. We youngins don’t know it all, as much as we want to believe we do.

16. Ministry is one of the most frustrating and rewarding experiences that I have ever had. I have cried, sulked, ran out of patience, and yet I continue to do it with love. God is good, and it is an absolute honor to serve in His house and lead His children back to Him. Thank you, God for choosing me.

17. Be still. Be at peace. The Lord did not make me and set me free so that I can work like a slave. I am allowed to take breaks, to rest and to be still in His presence. I can let the Lord do the heavy lifting.

 18.  My desires aren’t fairy tales, they can be a reality with Christ. I am a dreamer and a planner, and sometimes my dreams and expectations may seem big to some, but God is infinite, and because of that, my desires and dreams do not have to fit the extent of reality. I serve a supernatural God!birthday, important lessons learned

19. Spread your wings and fly! Trust God and He will lead you. I came into 21 sure that I was going one route with my career, and I came out of 22 with a totally new route. God had to reveal this new root to me even though it was always deep down inside of me. It was hard to make the switch, but as I held on to God’s hand, He led me and never let me fall.

20. Life is really beautiful! not because of the things that you have or do, but because you can walk in freedom.birthday joy, important lessons learned

21.Contentment is very important in a world that always wants to make you feel that you aren’t enough, not doing enough, and don’t have enough. Be content with your present and be expectant of your future.

22. Did I mention that God is good! REALLY REALLY good.

 

 

 

 And there you have it folks, 22 lessons on my 22nd birthday. I am so excited and expectant for this next chapter in my book. I would like to thank my family, friends, pastors, and church family for their continual investment in my life. Cheers to 22!

 

Stay blessed,