Calling: You Are Made on Purpose

Mark Twain once said that “ the two most important days in your life are the day you were born, and the day you find out why”. What is your purpose on this earth, why were you created, were you even created on purpose or was it just a mishap?

God knows exactly who you are meant to be, “ Before I formed you in the womb I knew you before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations” (Jeremiah 1:5). You were not a mistake, but a creation made by God, he knew of your existence before the beginning of time.image describing the important of knowing the purpose of a product before creating it.

A Manufacturer’s Product

You might be saying, “ ok I know that God knew me before creating me, but what does that mean in terms of having a purpose and being called?”. If God knew that you would be born then he had a plan set for your life. A manufacturer does not create a product before deciding the purpose of the product. When creating
a product, you first set out the blueprint, the audience it will target, the purpose of the product, and then you make it. If anyone has been created on this earth, that means God, the manufacturer of mankind, has a purpose for them.

The issue is not that you don’t have a purpose, no, you have been called. The issue is that often timquestion asking the reader if they are still recognizable.es, through sin, we stray far away from our manufacturer and are unable to determine our calling and purpose. Sometimes products get so bruised up and beaten over time that you are unable to recognize what it was meant to be; we’ve all had that destroyed book, that you can no longer tell the title of. We live in a fallen world and the problems of life have a way of beating us up too, sometimes to a point where we move so off track that we become unrecognizable.

Have you ever bought an item, and instead of reading the assembly manual that comes with the item, you assemble it based on your own knowledge? I do this all the time. Eventually, what happens is that you end up building the item, let us say that it is a bookshelf. The bookshelf looks nice at first glance, yet there are some bolts you forget to secure and it is not level, so it ends up falling apart after a short amount of time. This is what happens when we mature apart from the Word, we may look like we have it together on the outside, but inside we are crumbling and eventually will break.

Living In Intimacy with God

We were not meant to live apart from our manufacturer and apart from his manual, the Word. “ If we live, we live for the Lord; and if we die we die for the Lord. So, whether we live or die we belong to the Lord” (Romans 14:8). Sin is what separates us from God “ But your iniquities have separated you from your God; your sins have hidden his face from you so that he will not hear” (Isaiah 59:2). Our sinful nature separates us from God, but the blood of the lamb covers all sin and allows us to live intimately with God. The question we should be asking ourselves is “ am I walking with God or am I living apart from him” because if you live apart from God you will NEVER know the call upon your life.

You are a child of God made on purpose, for a purpose. “ Then God said “ Let us make man in our imagepicture encouraging reader that they have been made to succeed , after our likeness. And let them have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of heaven and over the livestock and over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth” ( Genesis 1:26). You were made after the likeness of God, not to sit around but to have dominion over the earth. You were made to have success over everything you touch because your heavenly father formed you.

“ So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God” ( 1 Corinthians 10:31). You have a calling over your life, and everything you do should have purpose. You might not be at the point where you are sure about your calling but you still have the ability to ask God about the purpose of different aspects of your life. God cares even about the little things. I often ask him, what is the purpose of dressing in this way, what is the purpose of this class? What is the purpose of this friendship? If you want to be a powerhouse for the Lord, you must live a life that is purposeful.

It is only through intimacy with your creator, that you will be able to determine your calling and the purpose to any life choice.

Prayer

Heavenly father, forgive me if I have sought (Insert decisions) before seeking your face. Lord, I desire to walk with your presence and not ahead of it. On this day, I will be patient enough to ask you for direction and purpose before making any decision. Lord, I desire to have a more intimate relationship with you. I am broken and the only way I will begin to be healed is through you, my creator. Lord, thank you for calling me and for placing a purpose in me even before I was born. I will keep my eyes peeled and my ears open so that I may hear and see you. Thank you for the sacrifice that you made on the cross, because of Jesus Christ my sins have washed away and I am able to walk in freedom. Lord, thank you for reminding me that no matter how I came on this earth, I have been made on purpose for a purpose. In Jesus’s name, Amen.

 

Stay blessed,

Single Chronicles: Lessons From My Single Season

There seems to be a ludicrous belief that all single people are unhappy, sad, lonely and desperate, but it’s a lie. Singleness is not a poisonous state to be in. Our single season can be one of growth, freedom and beauty. As a seasoned single, I have learned a few lessons that has truly impacted me.

Being single is not a death sentence.

My Journey

Being single was not always easy. Yes, I had those moments when I would throw a pity party for myself. In college, especially before I found a relationship with Christ, it was difficult to be single and content. People seemed to get booed up left and right and having “bae” was all part of the college experience. I didn’t want much, just a simple hug, a valentine, a chocolate and a buddy to go eat with…

As time passed, I would continue to envy those with relationships. I had a desire to date without understanding God’s standards. Eventually my desires combined with my lack of knowledge of God’s truth led me to enter a relationship that was not for me. You all know exactly what I mean, there are things that God says don’t touch and instead of listening, we get closer and closer and closer until it burns us.

My heart was hardened towards God, I was lukewarm; I wanted to have the label of Christian without having the fire and power of God to fuel my life. A desire that is not matched with God’s will can consume us and poison our lives. 

Relationships Are Important

Don’t enter a relationship out of a desire that does not match up with God’s will for your life.

When I renewed my vow to God and became intentional with my faith, my whole view of relationships and single seasons changed. I finally understood the importance and significance of relationships in our lives. The world makes it seem as if relationships are casual happenings BUT God does not see it that way at all. The person we choose to spend the rest of our life with is not a light issue and it cannot be chosen in a place of desperation, ungodly desire and confusion.

Together, you and your mate should glorify the Lord more than you could separately. Marriage is more than hugs and kisses, but is a covenant that is pure and that should exemplify Jesus’s love for the church.

It can be very easy to be narrow minded and short sighted when it comes to relationships. Sometimes, we forget that our decision on who to partner with affects others. I have learned that the decision that I make in regards to my lifelong partner may affect generations to come.

Marriage is sacred and should not be taken lightly. Relationships and marriage must be done with God’s help if we want it to last and be successful. There is no need to rush out of our single season to enter a situation that was never meant for us.

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The Now

My single season has allowed me to take a step back and really learn how to date in a way that is pleasing to the Lord. I have learned my role as a woman in a relationship and how God intended men to pursue. I have had the time to pray over my desires and ensure that they are Godly standards and not just preferences.

Pruning and Preperation

Use your single season to understand God’s intention for relationships and marriage. This is the time for you to set your standards straight so that no one can sweet talk you out of them

Read dating advice here

I can honestly say that the discontentment and burning desire to be in a relationship is no longer alive. That’s not to say that I have no desire for a relationship and marriage…no no no. But what this does mean is that I am content. I am content with being in the season that I am in as I know that this season is necessary to get me to the next one. There is danger in jumping out of seasons too fast. I have let go and let God mature me into the woman He needs me to be for the future family and husband that He will provide.

Contentment

Marriage is hard and it is not for the faint hearted. Fortunately, God provides all the neccesary tools to make marriage a beautiful journey. Let’s trust that the Lord will carry us through.

Be content in your singleness. You are in this season not because God has some evil plan to keep you single forever, but maybe because it just isn’t the right time. Allow God to be God and sit back. Don’t you want the King of kings to write your love story?

So often we fall into this pity party and we forget that life has so much to give. I can’t dwell on my lack when God has a lot for me TODAY. Instead of focusing on what I don’t have, let me focus on the passions and gifts God has birth in me. We are women of purpose, let’s not sit around waiting for a man, get up and go!

There are many things that you can do in your single season that you cannot do once married. Instead of dwelling on your lack, go and pursue the passions God has placed in your heart. The kingdom needs you to end your pity party and join the task force.

Trust God’s Plan

I hate to be the downer, but what if you never get married? Would you stomp your feet, and turn your back on God. Now, I am not saying that this will happen to you. If it is God’s plan for you to have a mate than surely you will have one. But have you ever asked yourself that question? And when you did, was your first response ” God forbid” and then you brushed it off. If you brushed it off? Why? Why is it that we tend to shy away from that question? The question is black and white.

I have always had a desire to have a marriage and to raise a family and I believe that God will give me the desires of my heart. But if I end up unmarried, I believe that God is still in control and has a better plan for my life. “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” ( Jeremiah 29:11)

Cherish Your Today

If marriage is not in God’s plan for your life, that is nothing to be scared of because that was not your BEST plan.

God is too good for me to turn my back on Him. My first desire is to pursue God with passion and zeal. Without Him I am nothing, a husband does not take the place of Christ! I am confident in my ability to succeed through anything if God is by my side.

Pursue Christ, not for the blessings but for Him. Understand that God’s plan is the best plan for your life even if it doesn’t look like your own desires. God will give you joy and peace through any season of life. Trust in His abilities to transform desires that you thought could not be changed.

There is beauty in entrusting God and giving Him control over my love life. Instead of being stressed about my single status, I am able to enjoy God’s presence and the present that He has created for me. Why should I cry when I can laugh and enjoy TODAY. My God, there is so much right in front of us if we just open our eyes to see it.single season

 

Let’s Cherish our today. Enjoy and be content in your singleness. Let’s be  so in love with God that we are willing to let go of our desires to follow His. Being single is not a death sentence but an amazing journey of growth, preparation and freedom.

 

Stay blessed,

 

The Best College Advice For Success Ft. Angelica

Happy Back To School

I remember going back to school; fresh books, teachers and lessons. If you haven’t gone back to school yet than you probably will very soon, so why not gain some wisdom from the wise.”Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm” (Proverbs 13:20). Angelica is an oustanding woman of God and is in her last semester of college pursuing Mechanical engineering; what better person to give college advice!

Academic

In your opinion what is the hardest aspect of college?

The hardest aspect of college is understanding your path and following through. Once you identify your goals, it makes it easier to execute college and to stay persistent through trial & tribulations.

I was a straight A student in high school and I just seem to struggle a lot in right in college. I am frustrated, what do you suggest?

Relax. Don’t apply anymore pressure to yourself than college already does. Find some guidance through mentors, older students, alumni, or even your peers. Get some information on academic resources and programs that can help to readjust your focus and steps to getting the grades you want. One of the best advice that I have received throughout my college career is “Work Smarter, not Harder”.

How do I pick a major?

College has so many opportunities available, so you should never limit yourselve, ever. When deciding on the major you want, make sure that you can maximize your experience outside of the classroom within the next four years ahead of you. Thus, my key advice would be to brainstorm your interests and then based off of those listed, find a major that creates your interest into a passion.

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Ok so what about professor and student relationship? Is it really important that I speak to my professors? I am nervous, I am one out of 300 students?

Yes! these professors will not know you unless you make an impression on them. So build relationships with them in order to reap the benefits of recommendations, grade changers, and overall, academic excellence. So, find your way to office hours, emails, front row, or whatever you need to do to show your face.

Do I really need an internship? Are they even useful?

YES. Experience is very important because it helps you to maximize your skills and bring you closer to your career of choice. Even the worst internships can teach you about yourself and what you don’t and do like.

I went to the bookstore to buy my books? was that a good idea? Where should I buy textbooks?

No, college is a business (aka expensive ) so go check out Amazon Prime for students, Half.com , free online pdfs, and older students that took the courses before you. Thank me later.

Spirtuality

How do I maintain my faith in college when there is so much temptation? How do you flee temptation?

Find your foundation. Find that place on campus that you can go for spiritual wisdom, fellowship, and accountability. Whether it is a campus fellowship on campus or anearby Church, campus hobby, or an on-campus coffee shop that you can reflect in. It is important to guard your heart throughout college and sometimes isolation can bring growth but don’t lose yourself.

Read: 13 Ways To Better Your Relationship With Christ

How do you make time for God with your busy schedule? How am I even going to make it to church without a car?

Prayer is essential, so I always try to find time to pray throughout the day and to also receive wisdom in the smallest breaks (walking to class) through podcasts, youtube sermons, music and so forth. Sometimes I do fall behind,  so make sure to have friends to keep you accountable and give you rides to church if you can’t find one on campus

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Social & More

What should I pack for move in and what should I leave?

Your Bible because the enemy be trying it, especially at some schools more than ever, but that’s a topic for another blog post. Also, don’t forget your skin care, hygienic products, and stress reliever products because self care is KEY. Don’t bring your whole closet to school because let’s be real, your style is going to change, you’ll be going home on breaks, and seasons change so nobody has time to be throwing out clothes when it is time to move out.

How can I avoid the freshman 15?

LOL. I am still learning; I’m currently at senior 4.5. However, being active through recreational and club teams are helpful because the team needs you so you can’t skip even if you don’t feel like going.  Fitness is also more fun in a group context.

What about friendship? What is one friendship advice you would give to your freshman self?

Not everyone is for you (clapping emojis). Freshmen babe, the best thing you can do for yourself is to love yourself first because that’s the only thing that will stay constant for the next four years.

How do I make friends?

Pray for intentional friends, and then go out to organizations (social and professional), campus events and etc. because what is faith without works.

How can I interact well with my roommate? Did you ever have any roommate issues?

Set your boundaries even outside of the mandatory roommate agreement that you are forced to sign. Most of my issues were due to lack of communication.

How do you manage social life and school life? What are some of your organization tips?

Lol in my pre-conditioned life or now? What I have learned now, is that both type of lives should feed into you and not the other way around. So, in some semesters my social life would just include organization meetings and my quiet time but then in others, it would be more parties. Thus, I would suggest that you take some time to relax and take on hobbies outside of your academics that can be your getaway when school becomes stressful but are also career builders.

 

Any more college advice?

 Whoever said college was the best four years of your life, didn’t have their future figured out. The honest truth is that college will be a great four years only if you decide to dedicate it to your lifelong growth, success, and happiness. Here’s 11 principles I wish I knew about growing up.

  1. Know who you are authentically because what you thought you were in high school was an illusion.
  2. As a lady, never shoot your shot, when you were just meant to keep score. (Stay Focused)
  3. Look at your friends, now ask yourself: what purpose do they serve? If they can’t grow with you then they can’t hear from you.
  4. In your worst moments. Still show love.
  5. Embrace the pain, you can’t go under or over it but just through it.
  6. Don’t be afraid to say follow God and proclaim His name freely and bodly.
  7. Lack of communication leads to a greater assumption.
  8. Don’t let people suggestions be your greatest wisdom.
  9. What God has for you, you have to take it. There’s no way around it.
  10. The goal is to be a humble servent and not a boastful nuisance. The bible says that those who humble themeselves will be exalted.
  11. Mental health is worth more than your grades.

 

 

Thank you Angelica for such great advice! I counld’t have said it better myself. As you have blessed us with your wisdom, so will the Lord return that blessing to you doublefold.

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Stay Blessed,

The 22 Most Important Lessons Learned

Wow, another year in my book of life. God has been so faithful in leading me to this place. On this day, I celebrate my birthday and some of the important lessons learned in life thus far. This was a beautiful chapter, and like last year, I would like to share lessons I have learned. Cheers to 22, and cheers to 22 new lessons!

 

Most Important Lessons Learned

1. I am fearfully and wonderfully made, not only do I know this but I believe it. No amount of praise can help you gain confidence, only God can.

2. It is important to care and love on your family and friends. Often times we are so busy taking care of others outside of our circle, serving and what not that we forget to show that same love to those in our home. I can’t treat my family and friends as less because I believe they won’t go anywhere. Life is short, cherish your time with those you love.Birthday balloons, important lessons learned

3. Television is overrated and boring. Reading is much more relaxing and educational. I have gained so much wisdom from reading and I am so thankful for the ministry of each and every author that has planted seeds in my life.

                  4. Smile beautiful, it looks good on you. I smile on most of my pictures, partly because I don’t know what else to do ( lol) but mostly because I have joy. Joy and peace from the Lord cannot be understood, simply felt. It is such a beautiful gift to smile in the hills and valleys.

5. My faith walk is not dependent on rules and bylaws, more so an intimate relationship with Jesus Christ. Because I seek to build a strong and intimate relationship with Christ, I stick close to His teachings. Religion and rules do not guide me, the Holy Spirit and the truths written in the word do. It is vital for any Christian journey to walk with the aid of the Holy Spirit.

 6. Beauty starts within. You shine, not because of the makeup or clothes you wear, but as a residual effect of the light that is within you.

7. I will no longer make excuses for my quirks. I am me with all the quirks, either you like it or you don’t. If you do, great but if you don’t, that’s also great. Everyone does not have to befriend me and that is more than ok, it just means that our destinies do not cross.Birthday, roses, important lessons learned

 

 

 

 

 

 

8. Yes, my hair is big, curly, thick and doesn’t always act the way it should, but I love it. I use to be so annoyed of my hair, but I am starting to see how much of a blessing it is.

9. Perspective is key. Instead of moaning over your issues, look at them through God’s. How is this situation working for my good, and how is it molding me in my path of purpose and destiny. No experience is a wasted experience!

10. One of the most important lesson I learned is to not be afraid to love hard and to say it even if you’re scared. I used to be very fearful of how people would perceive me if I ” cared too much” or ” gave too much”, I thought they would say that I was extra, but that hasn’t been the case. Those that respond negatively are those that need love the most. We live in a broken world, love is the last thing we should be hiding. Love and serve others. 22nd birthday, important lessons learned

 11. It is okay to be selfish. It is okay to be selfish. You need to protect yourself and guard your heart. This means that you will have to say no to some things; you may have to cut relationships. Walk in wisdom and don’t leave situations in a sour state but guard your heart.

 12. Laugh your problems away. Laughter is great medicine!

13. God is faithful, worthy, deserving and powerful. It is so unfortunate that we do not fully  understand the power and love of God. He is mighty, and He has not let me down yet, and He never will. I am so glad that the Lord turned my story around, that He called me when I did not feel deserving of His world. To God be all the glory!

14. Change is good. I used to hate change, detest it, the strongest word you can possibly imagine. Routine is still near and dear to my heart but I am not scared to try new things because I have found that it is in that new thing that God matures me. I am forced to depend on God when I am not in my comfort zone.Ivy walls, important lessons learned

 

 

 

15. Parents and grandparents have a lot of wisdom. Listen to the elders in your life and gain some wisdom. We youngins don’t know it all, as much as we want to believe we do.

16. Ministry is one of the most frustrating and rewarding experiences that I have ever had. I have cried, sulked, ran out of patience, and yet I continue to do it with love. God is good, and it is an absolute honor to serve in His house and lead His children back to Him. Thank you God for choosing me.

17. Be still. Be at peace. The Lord did not make me and set me free so that I can work like a slave. I am allowed to take breaks, to rest and to be still in His presence. I can let the Lord do the heavy lifting.

 18.  My desires aren’t fairy tales, they can be a reality with Christ. I am a dreamer and a planner, and sometimes my dreams and expectations may seem big to some, but God is infinite, and because of that, my desires and dreams do not have to fit the extent of reality. I serve a supernatural God!birthday, important lessons learned

19. Spread your wings and fly! Trust God and He will lead you. I came into 21 sure that I was going one route with my career, and I came out of 22 with a totally new route. God had to reveal this new root to me even though it was always deep down inside of me. It was hard to make the switch, but as I held on to God’s hand, He led me and never let me fall.

20. Life is really beautiful! not because of the things that you have or do, but because you can walk in freedom.birthday joy, important lessons learned

21.Contentment is very important in a world that always wants to make your feel that you aren’t enough, not doing enough, and don’t have enough. Be content with your present and be expectant of your future.

22. Did I mention that God is good! REALLY REALLY good.

 

 

 

 And there you have it folks, 22 lessons on my 22nd birthday. I am so excited and expectant for this next chapter in my book. I would like to thank my family, friends, pastors, and church family for their continual investment in my life. Cheers to 22!

 

Stay blessed,