Brunch and Friendship
I was able to celebrate my friend’s birthday via brunch recently. It was such a great time filled with laughter, joy, and celebration.
Now if you don’t know by now, I am an introvert. I like staying at home, cozying up to my blanket and reading a good book. Although I love people, I have to be intentional with meeting up with friends and going to events…or I just won’t do it.
But as I transition from college life to adult life, I am realizing the importance of intentionality in friendships. With every relationship, whether it be a romantic one or a friendship, the flame will slowly burn out if you don’t maintain it…and what better way to maintain a flame than to fan it.
What I am saying is you HAVE to make time for your friends if you want to keep them. This is not to say that you have to call them up each day, but you have to find a way to stay relevant in their lives. The people you love the most should not have to go through hardships and grand celebrations without you.
It’s not difficult to make friends, but it can be difficult to keep them. So below are five things that I have implemented to ensure that my friendships grow.
5 Key Ways To Upkeep Your Friendships
Keep Christ at the center of your relationships.
Having a Christ-centered relationship is key to maintaining a healthy and purposeful friendship. I find that this is especially useful to ward off offense, which is something that can occur easily in friendship. When I am upset as a friend, I go to God to hash it out before I go to the friend. Jesus Christ keeps me in line and in check. Oftentimes my perspective can be tainted and Christ allows me to see things in a clear way to ensure that I make a clear decision on how to move forward. I would highly recommend including prayer in your relationships. My core group of friends makes the time to pray together once a month. It’s hard to keep grudges and anger while praying for each other, so prayer is key!
Have a clear communication line and be vulnerable
How are you going to build a relationship with someone that you don’t speak to? News Flash, You can’t. Take the time to speak to your friends and built a relationship, in which you are free to speak your mind, correct your friend and be true to yourself. It makes it so hard to be deep with someone you don’t trust will understand you. As you grow your relationship, take a chance and be vulnerable. I have found that my friendships have grown a lot in my most vulnerable times.
Continue to have fun together
Don’t take life too seriously. Laughter is the cure for many ailments. Don’t lose the fun that you once had when you first started being friends. Even with the increasing responsibilities of life, I find it important to just laugh and be silly.
Facetime is your best friend
Y’all let me tell you, Facetime is a Godsend. If your friend has an Android and can’t facetime, drop them, it was never meant to be…. I am totally joking, please don’t do that. In the 21st century, distance cannot be an excuse for not keeping in touch. Facetime has become my key even with my friends that live in the state. You won’t always have the time to drive or fly to a friends house, and you cant wait to speak to someone until you see them face-to-face. Facetime allows you to have great conversations in the comfort of your own home. We all know that texting communication is very different then talking…don’t depend on texting as the only source of communication.
Celebrate the wins and mourn the losses.
Like I mentioned above, I don’t want my friends to celebrate the wins and mourn the losses without me. When they achieve a desire and God blesses them, I want to be there to celebrate with them. At the same time, when they go through tough times, I also want to be there to support them and walk them out of that darkness. Don’t stop doing life with the people you love.
P.S. The restaurant where I had lunch was Sugo Osteria in Potomac, Maryland. It was delicious and I recommend their bottomless brunch.